Two questions that you should ask yourself more often

It’s well known that living the life is not just breathing and surviving, the life is an empty book that we are filling in as years are going by. The fact is that you can write a short, correct and boring story or you can publish a huge encyclopaedia, full of adventures, achievements, mistakes and funny stories. How to get the last one? It’s just about living the life in a more intense way, your life could be a kind of amusement park, going up and down hill, fighting in the mud and enjoying the sky.

Why not?

Living the life in an intense way can be risky and dangerous, but you can take advantage of all the experiences you add for the story of your life, even if they are horrible, you can learn for them and get over. So when you are thinking about doing something or not, it is easier to think: “why not” (in which you are turning your opinion from yes to no) instead of thinking “why should I do” (from no to yes). We are lazy to change our mind, that’s why, the why not spirit takes advantage and it can be the beginning of wonderful stories. If not, you could enjoy trying it, you need to know what is failing so as to appreciate more the success.

Could you imagine reaching the retirement and not to have cool stories to tell to your grandchildren? Come on, what a shitty life! Well, maybe you had an awesome life but you have so weird and awkward stories that are not suitable for children. In this case, probably you had some fun in your life :P

With the “why not spirit”, things will just happen and you will gain many content to your encyclopaedia. Someone will need a huge place to store all volumes :D

Who cares?

The freedom of the people is limited by different chains such as society, family, your couple, culture, friends, law, government, and so on. There are some of them that are not easy to scape, the law and government for example, but others don’t need to be a problem to enjoy our life as much as we want.

A common problem in this field is that we care too much in what people think about us. But should we? The society is full of bad and negative people who are not worthy at all, it is not interesting to be surrounded by so depressed people, and if we are, who fucking cares what they think about us? Just do whatever you want to be happy, the good people will not judge you, they will be there to share many cool moments and not to ruin them.

Happiness should be something that everyone must believe and go for it. The different religions of the world are fighting among them to tell us in what to believe. My advice: believe in whatever you need in order to reach the happiness, but be free to get it easier.

To sum up, I would like to cheer you up not to be influenced by people, just be yourself and don’t be afraid of being different and special, it is a reason why other people will feel envy of you. Nevertheless, you shouldn't do it because of the people but because of you. It is such an amazing goal to feel free and write your own way to the happiness.

I want to underline the fact that the “why not spirit” it is just an attitude, not a rule, so there will be moments in which you will say not. However there will be others in which you will easily say: “Come on, who cares? Let’s do it! Why not?” ;)

Solving the mystery of the Microwaves

Since few years ago, many of you have heard me mentioning the microwaves, but how can be an electronic device so protagonist? Why so many complains and disappointments? Well, the image we have in our mind it is practical just to know what is it about. In this case we are talking about a behaviour. It has been present in my last years and I can say that it is the star of my jokes’ stuff, few people knew it out from where I am coming from, but now more and more people understand this philosophy around the world, so I can say that I am a kind of prophet who is advertising to the society about the risk of being microwaved.

It is said that the microwave person is the one who heats you up but doesn't cook you, but is it bad? Is it good? It depends on what are you looking for and how sensitive you are. Heating is something necessary in the field of flirting, but it could be dangerous, overheating can cause burns.

Let’s imagine a situation, for example the most common place for microwaving: a club in a Saturday night. We are surrounded by a lot of people who we probably would like few, our mind has started getting affected because of the alcohol and we are just enjoying the party. Suddenly in the middle of the night we meet someone who looks interested in us but we haven’t realised that she or he was in the disco until you start speaking. As long as the conversation is going on, our “why not” spirit is growing so probably we have started thinking that we can change our plans for tonight. Since we are not the man of steel and our balls or ovaries neither, we start feeling the attraction so our reproductive parts of the body start getting excited.

In a heated situation, we kiss, we touch and we are just thinking in the next step. In this moment we feel full of energy and with possibilities to do it, but although we try so hard we don't manage it. We ask ourselves “WTF is wrong?”, we can feel the desire on their eyes, in their kisses or even in their wet underwear, but finally you go home with a considerable balls-pain. Why? Why?

After a deep research in this field, we can consider many possible reasons:

1. Culture: In the area in which they are living is not well seeing to have sex so early, they need more time to meet the person and they need to keep their desire in order not to break the rules of their common process.

2. Insecurity: They are ready to have some kisses but they don’t feel secure enough to deal with the next step, they need more confident in the relationship.

3. The aim to keep the boy: They don’t have sex soon because they think there are some protocols so as they won’t be one night girls

4. The players: Some of them are kissing people just for feeling naughty and powerful, they are especially insensitive and they can do it also to grow their self-confidence seeing the desire of the others no matter their feelings.

It’s good to know about reasons, the first 3 are understandable, but the last one could be so cruel playing with others’ feelings. Everyone could be a player, but the match takes a certain time, after that we are over forcing, what’s more, the painful part of microwaving is for how long are you practising it and the intensity of the action.

Now we know what they are and why could the reasons be, so how can we recognise them? Actually, it’s difficult, it’s not possible to recognise them at first, we need to speak with them and figure out what kind of interest they have. However, it’s possible to face them up, their weak point is the honesty and clarity.

Most cases occur because of the lack of honesty and clarity, when the messages are sent or misunderstood between lines. Therefore, we should try to develop a clear enough and understandable conversation trying to show our aims and playing with the temperature of the process using the words and movements as tools. In every flirting situation must appear a heating (we are humans, not machines) and if we are too direct and cold, it would be like extinguishing the flame of the relationship with liquid nitrogen, we need to find the valance.

Last but not least, it is very important to know who is playing with who, so we should keep some power to be able to manage the situation. We get this power not being so easy and forcing them to make an effort so as to get what they want and appreciate it.

Anyway, if you hang out with the aim of just have fun and meet new people without expectation, it is always positive. In addition, just meet people and let the next step for other day in which the alcohol is not doing a threesome with you will help a lot. Then we’ll be able to think and act better and for sure it will be more difficult to cheat and play unfair.

Regarding to the gender of this topic, it is more usual to find girls microwaving guys, but there are cases in which it happen the opposite. It’s quite strange seeing a guy rejecting sex from a girl after kissing each other, but it can happen. Nevertheless, it is more common to find situations in which the guy shows interested in the girl but finally he is not in that way, she doesn't even get a kiss, he is just a microwave.

To sum up, take into account that just be kissing doesn't mean that we are being microwaved, it will depend on the intensity of the action. If you are playing the game of flirting you can be overheated and that can be painful not only for your feelings but also for some parts of your body, so if you want to be cooked just keep calm and look for ovens ;)